Obviously you have never experienced “good” self help material. I appreciate you taking the time to baiscally “dog” self help books. I don’tblme you in the least. too have had awfull experiences with so calld “self help” books but i intend on combining different tehniques and exercises to create something usefull to as many people as i can.This was not for some Psych class(i am not in school yet). I do intend on obtaing my degree in Psychology but havent evn started. But thanks for taking he time to say what you did. Is there any help you might offer along the lines of grammer and such.
Non-fiction / Letting Fear Go
Fear…..We all experience this feeling, and for most of us, it overpowers us at some point in our lives, and for some of us, all of our lives. Fear in and of itself isn’t negative. It’s the reaction to the fear that “can” be negative. When one experiences fear, the first reaction is to shy away from whatever triggered the fear. This reaction just gives power to the fear. What you resist will persist!
So in order for you to overcome a fear, you must first know what it is that you fear, and why it causes you fear. This isn’t always easy but it is simple. Very basic questions are first steps to overcoming fear.
To begin with: ask yourself what triggered your fear response? (you can write these down if you like) Then ask yourself, what were the circumstances when the fear response first developed? What did you do when the fear response developed? These questions are essential to overcoming your fear. You must find the answer even if the answers causes pain (like bringing up bad/negative memories) when answering these questions-being honest about the answers is the only way to manifest positive results. To help you with answering these questions write them down and leave some space for you to write your thoughts about the answers, continue writing until you have thoroughly explored the issues surrounding each question and have discovered a satisfactory answer. Then move on to the next question. Fear in its most basic form is just a feeling aroused by an experience. Why would we need fear? In some circumstances it may seem that fear is helpful and to some people who have not developed themselves into who and what they really want to be it is helpful. But for the most part fear causes us to refrain from doing what we really want to do. For example let’s say you want to put an application into a business to obtain a job but you fear being rejected so you don’t even put in an application to avoid that rejection…Does that seem helpful? No it is not! The act of avoiding an unwanted result only brings about that unwanted result. You must take action even when you fear an end result (especially when you fear an end result!). Even if you are rejected (continuing on with the job application example) you have made an attempt, you have put out into the universe that you want that job (or anything). If you take that rejection and decide you will not do that again because you don’t want rejection than you have already condemned yourself to rejection(your own rejection) but if you take that rejection and decide that’s okay , yes I am disappointed but I am going to carry on! I am going to succeed! You will! Fear has not conquered you. Fear may be dissolved completely. It takes a conscious effort on your part and an unwavering will to better yourself. Do you want to be the person that you dream to be? If the answer to this is yes than you already have a perfect reason to better your life. How much do you want to be that person? The answer to this question isn’t so much in words but more so in action. Yes, you can answer in words such as I want to be that person very much. But the real answer lies in what you do about achieving being that person. You must make your best attempt to implement in everything that you do-striving to be that person. You may be thinking “well. I have been” have you? When you wake up what do you think about? During the day what do you think about? Before you go to bed what do you think about? Take the time to list in as much detail as you can the answer to these questions. For best results actually take time throughout your day to record what you have been thinking about. Do this for a week. Do not read on until you have completed this (very important).
Now that you have this recording of your thoughts take a look at it. Put a mark next to each thought that in some way aids you in achieving your goal. Once you have done this re list every thought that has a check next to it. Number these. Is this list very long? Now based on this are you spending much of your energy thinking about your goal? Next if you’re not putting much thought into your goal than obviously no action is being carried out. Now that that you have realized just how much time you devote to achieving your goal (dissolution of fear) the next step is to implement a plan. What do you do to dissolve fear? It’s quite simple (yet as simple as it is it can be quite difficult). Simply put you just decide that you no longer will have the experience of fear. Of course that is easier said then done (I know). To decide to release fear is not just a thought or an action it is a systematically carried out procedure. It does require effort! Do not think that you will just read this and do some magic routine and Bam you will no longer fear. You must first set out to do something (dissolve fear) than you must know why you are doing this. Next you must develop a guide for you to follow. Most importantly you must follow through! This may take some time and for some even longer. It all depends on how deeply established your belief in fear runs. Refer to the fear worksheet to help you in developing this plan of dissolution.
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Interesting mind over matter kind of solution to conquering fear.
I don’t know how accurate the format is on the page that I am reading, but it is a little hard to follow along the way it is laid out. The way I am reading it now the entire article appears to be 3 long paragraphs. It would be easier to read if it were actually broken down into steps to follow. Or break it down by the self-questions followed by the examples.
This section for example:
To begin with: ask yourself what triggered your fear response? (you can write these down if you like) Then ask yourself, what were the circumstances when the fear response first developed? What did you do when the fear response developed? These questions are essential to overcoming your fear.
It might be better if you turned it around and then broke it up like this:
In overcoming your fear the first three essential questions to ask yourself are:
1) What triggered your fear response?
2) What were the circumstances when the fear response first developed?
3) What did you do when the fear response developed?
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jakapi reviewed Version 2 -
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This piece is difficult to read because it has no clear structure.
First off, paragraphs are your friend. Please use them a bit more. Try to put the larger parapgraphs into smaller, more concise ones. Also, perhaps place a spacer line in between paragraphs.
This has a lot of potential and I’m looking forward to seeing what becomes of this.
franco reviewed Version 1 -
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I was not expecting to read what was written.It is as if we went to a dictionary at first and then we were given a prescription on how to fix a problem that we might have.
No question the information is probably very accurate and could be helpful, but I am not sure that the title or the way it is written will bring a large group to want it.
I do not want to discourage your work, but I think you may want to re visit the title or let the reader know what this is all about first.
AnnEnglish reviewed Version 1 -
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There is much good sense in this passage. The good sense would shine forth more clearly if the paragraphs were shorter.
Also, the chain of thought is not clear. Because the order is all over the place, you sometimes repeat yourself. It is hard for the reader to follow.
I suggest as an exercise to begin with that you separate all the sentences. Leave a blank line between each sentence and the next.
Then it may be useful to separate the sentences that talk about fear and its bad effects, and the sentences that talk about a good future without fear, and the sentences that describe the things to do to reduce fear.
Finally, rewrite your material in those three parts, in that order, I suggest.
I hope this is helpful
Ann
Kym reviewed Version 1 -
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Who do you think your audience is for this piece of writing. I really need some context here, because unless you are writing for a group of phobics that have lived their entire lives in a vacuum, I don’t think you’re going to get a lot of takers.
If this is some kind of assignment for a psych course, then maybe it has a purpose. But it doesn’t really cut it in the real world.
(I know)alarm bell ringing. If instead, you have just read some cheesy, patronising pop-psychology book and it helped you, doesn’t mean you need to repackage it and flog it off as your own.
These ideas are not original.
Why do you think you would qualify you to ‘help’ other people?
Self help books cause more problems than they solve. And this is based on data. Self-help builds up an unrealsitic expectation that things are going to be fabulous, just by following these easy steps. Wham, six months later, and the same person is depressed and anxious because nothing changed despite all their efforts and aspirations.
Promise everything, delievers nothing.
So , unless these people get professional help, what do they do? A few months later they buy another shitty self-help book to raise their dreams. Over and over and over.
So if you want to write self-help books, join the queue, because it’s not about really helping people, it’s about big time profitting from people’s dreams.
I recommend reading a book called SHAM by Steve Salern, if you want to know some truth.
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