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I like Valentines Day, I really do.

But I only like it with my friends and family—ironically enough. Friends and families usually say or get you the funniest or ‘just what you wanted’ stuff and follow up with the mood you are in or uplift you from the mood you were in. I don’t really expect much from friends and family, therefore when you get things or are verbally acknowledged, it is sooo nice.

I find that Valentines Day with that special someone isn’t all that great. Maybe it’s just me, which is fine. But was it all the commercialism that contributed to this train of thought? Was the hopes and feelings others expressed, over the years, on how it’s supposed to be a factor? I’ve had crushes, been truly in love and everything in between. Yet, no matter how great the guy or how good the relationship, Valentines Day was always a letdown.
Is it too much to ask that your spouse/partner/love/lover know you well enough to do and say the right things on Valentines Day? I don’t expect my guy to be psychic. Only that he be considerate enough to observe what I actually like. After all, no guy says “Man that phone is awesome!” Just so that you can go out and buy him a tie. No woman will mention “I wish I could afford this dress.” In order to compel you to get her a stuffed animal. Not the actual items, but the style and direction of these types of verbal clues, would be a great start.

Seriously!

Some people make excuses that they hate Valentines Day and never celebrate it, so you should follow suit. Some people get you too many corny things that aren’t your style. Some people just get you a card and just sign their name without personalizing it. Some people just get you something expensive and expect you to be estatically grateful over it. Sometimes you get things that THEY want and claim it is for you. Sometimes you are asked about what you want instead of taking the time to observe what you actually like. Sometimes you get all the right things, but the mood behind it is lackluster. Some are continually trying to stir up your ‘romance’ (which is actually passion), to get you straight to bed (or the floor, or the tub, or the whatever)

I’m always grateful for anything, and I express sincere gratitude. However, in my heart I feel let down. For just that one day.

It’s the everyday love, committment, honesty and faithfulness that matter the most. You don’t see commercials celebrating and appreciating everyday love for no reason. You don’t see many people writing articles or books or movies or TV about just having an everyday love and being thankful for it. We don’t have an everyday holiday to say, thank you so much for loving me today. Thank you so much for being here for me today. Thank you so much for being faithful to me today.

Unfortunately, we don’t always make the time to say these things to our special loved ones every single day. We’re too busy, too worried, to exhausted, too distracted or too whatever…to do something as simple as that. We have it in our heads, “Oh they know I love them…yada, yada yada. After all, don’t I say as much on Valentine’s Day and all the big holidays?”

What would you think if your special loved one said things like that to you every single day? What do you think your special loved one would do if you said things like that to them everyday?

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